What changed?

I met a man whose wife was the bread winner in their household. She made about three times what he did, was totally responsible for them having a roof over their heads and kept him in line so that stability was present.

But, as she always said, she made it clear he was the leader of their household.

"It's mostly for his ego," she said. "Afterall, he IS the man."

But a conversation last night made me wonder how many people were going about relationships the wrong way.

Traditionally, men and women have had their roles laid out for them, sort of in a predestined way. But as times have changed, and the new millennium rolled out, women have taken control of their lives more than ever.

Unfortunately, that control may be to the detriment of their potential mates.

Many women have walked into the new millennium finding power being handed to them in a way it was never given before. I'm not saying there's a role for a man and for a woman, but I'm saying if you're gonna stray so far from the traditional roles, have the decency to know what compromise is.

In my last relationship, we talked often about how things would work if we ever moved in together, the first in many steps toward that ball-and-chaindom.

"You clean and I'll cook," I used to say often. There was never a problem in that area.

Maybe women who've run into guys basically not worth their weight in anything are beginning to not take "it" anymore.

Women are in positions of power in their jobs more than any time before, and maybe a guy took advantage of that. Maybe these women are treating everybody like that one guy who was supposed to be "the one," but ended up mooching off the money mill.

Maybe she's just one of those girls who doesn't like to be called a girl, and goes about making her power felt.

Maybe guys are intimidated by the new woman.

All I know is that something's changed. But what?